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Life Update: Summer 2018

HELLO friends and family! I wanted to give you all a little update on my life the past year-where I’ve been, how I’ve been, etc. First of all let’s start with…

School:
I’m currently in my senior year of college, studying my bachelors in psychology. I have this summer quarter left and then two more classes! I was initially supposed to be done this summer but ended up not being able to get into a class because I was taking the prerequisite at the same time (thanks academic advisor) anyway…so I dropped another class in order to have a lighter summer load and will be graduating in October.

It’s so close yet seems so far. I keep having to remind myself that it’s not a race or competition and that I am already about two years ahead but impatience is just a cornerstone of my personality (UGH LOL). 😩

I’m honestly not sure what I want to do once I complete my bachelors. Maybe go on to get my masters? However, currently I am interning at a local police station and I am LIVING FOR IT.

Internship:
That brings me to the second huge thing going on in my life at the moment-interning at a police station. I started last week and it has already been an amazing experience. I feel like there is just so much knowledge to gain on psychology and dealing with people that I have trouble absorbing it all.

I’m enjoying every second of it, even though it involves getting up early than I’m used to and being on my feet for long periods of time. It makes me feel like I am making a difference in my community.

Work:
I’m still a nanny full time and let me tel you it can be tiring-but it is also very much rewarding. I see these little girls being shaped into great people everyday and it makes me feel so wonderful to have an influence in their lives and growing up. I also feel like it is preparing me for future motherhood.

Some days I feel like I have it down. I think I could have a kid anytime now and do awesome. The girls I nanny are behaving great and I’m feeling good about making an impact. Other days, I feel like I never want kids and literally just need a Venti Latte with about five shots of espresso.

I’m not sure what life has in store for me in the next few years career wise but I do know that currently I enjoy where I’m at.

Relationships:
It’s super hard having a long distance best friend. I had always heard that but never really experienced it until Victoria went off to college. It was a ROUGH adjustment. I felt super alone for the longest time without my best friend here.

It’s still difficult but I have found it is easier when I spend more time investing in my relationships with people here when I feel lonely.

Jonathan and I are still dating! We’re coming up on two years this August and he has continued to be one of my biggest supporters through these last years. I am so high strung and get stressed easily and he is the exact opposite which is very calming for me.

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I believe that’s all I have for a life update right now!! I really want to blog consistently but realize that I am also horrible at it! 😅 I have so many things I want to write about though and would love to hear your thoughts! Should I write more about nannying, being an intern, surviving college and working full time? Long distance friendships? Send me a message or leave a comment on what your think I should write about!

Xoxox,
Ruby Marie

 

 

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My Battle With Anxiety 

     For as long as I remember I’ve always carried around this sense of nervousness. It would show up in the form of nausea before going to school as a kid, or getting sick when away from home, or crying over simple decisions. I didn’t know what it was at the time but looking back it’s clear that anxiety has been something of a constant struggle throughout my whole life.  
It’s a hard thing, feeling like your body and mind are betraying you. I didn’t want to be anxious all the time, I didn’t want to be sick all the time. In my head I knew I was overthinking, I knew I didn’t have to worry about every possible outcome of a situation, but I couldn’t stop myself. People from church would share verses with me like Philippians 4:6 which says, “Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God” their intentions were pure but anxiety isn’t something you can just snap out of and I don’t think that’s what God intended to portray with these verses… (Often translations interchange “anxiety” with the words “fret or worry,” which are two things much less severe than suffering from an anxiety disorder.) 

     The people who shared these verses with me were trying to help but in doing so they were belittling and invalidating the way I felt. It made me feel that I was doing something wrong in my relationship with God, because I wasn’t able to just feel better. What I didn’t understand was that, as close and I became with God, it wasn’t going to be a cure all for my pain. Just like someone with cancer won’t just be cured by God because of their faith. YES he certainly could cure us, whether we’re suffering from mental illness or physical ones. I know I’ve spent lots of times wondering why He won’t just do that, but then I realize that I can’t play God and tell Him what He should be doing. 

     I also don’t want to diminish the role that God can have and has had in helping overcome anxiety. Prayer and mentoring have helped me immensely in my struggle with anxiety. God provided us with doctors and medicine however to help as well. 
     Around Freshman year my anxiety really peaked, it manifested itself in the form of having an upset stomach often. My anxiety was constantly making me feel sick and to avoid feeling sick I stopped eating, because it seemed like a good solution at the time (LOL).

     However, I don’t want to focus too much on eating disorders in this post because I wanted it to be more about anxiety. Basically, everything started spiraling down hill fast and a Illness I had been able to manage on my own for most of my life was soon out of control. My anxiety had taken over. 

     I couldn’t go out with friends because I would feel sick, I couldn’t go to school, I couldn’t do anything. Life was awful. I didn’t think it would ever get better. 

     I was soon forced into seeking help from doctors and therapists and even though I was SO against this I really don’t think I ever would have gotten better without that support. 

     It’s not weak to seek help, and it’s not weak to need to take medicine to feel better. This is something I want to emphasize a thousand times over; TAKING MEDICINE FOR MENTAL ILLNESS DOES NOT MAKE YOU WEAK. It is honestly so enraging to me when I see posts like that show pills captioning it, “this isn’t an antidepressant” and then a forest or something captioning it “this is an antidepressant” LIKE EXCUSE ME?? We don’t shame people with physical illnesses for using medical resources do we? 

     It’s absolutely ridiculous and just contributes to the fact that mental illness isn’t recognized as an actual thing by so many people. Even though by 2030 mental illness (specifically depression) in this study, is set to outrun cancer, stroke, war and accidents as the leading cause of death and disability. It’s so appalling to me that such a serious thing is barely recognized. 

     Anyway, back on track. My mental and physical health improved a thousand times once I started receiving treatment for anxiety, depression and anorexia. This included taking medicine, which I still take to this day. 

     I would say I’m out of the thick of it, I sometimes experience a bit of anxiety. I sometimes have panic attacks. However, from where I was to where I am now is SO much better. 

     I really wanted to share my story because there is so much stigma around Mental Illness and people who suffer from it. Barely anyone ever speaks out about their struggles and I think that needs to end. 

     I would love to hear your own stories with Mental Illness, whether it affected you or someone you love. Comment them or send me a message! 

Always remember, there is hope. ❤️


Xoxo, 

Ruby Marie

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Sunsets

If you spend any time with me, you know that I LOVE sunsets and sunrises. I just think they are such a beautiful display of God’s love for us. I mean how can someone look at something so pretty and not want to just praise God for creating it. At least, that’s how I feel. 🙂 Honestly this weekend was crazy and not in a good way, but last night Victoria and I drove by a park while the sun was going down and decided to pull over and take some pictures. Scrolling through Pinterest earlier I saw the quote, “sunsets are proof that endings can be beautiful too” and I think this couldn’t be more true. Victoria & I had a good end to a not so good couple of days and I’m thankful for God using something as simple as a sunset for reassurance that everything is going to be okay.

The Heavens declare the glory of God; The skies proclaim the work of His hands. // Psalms 19:1

P.S. There is actually pictures of me in here, I know… what a surprise! Yes I cut my hair & I am loving it. I feel like shoulder length hair is making a comeback in 2016. 😉IMG_1965IMG_1977IMG_2007IMG_2057IMG_1968IMG_2054