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How To Love Yourself!!

Hey it’s Ruby & today I wanted to share with you all something that I have been working hard on the past few years of my life, & that is: LOVING YOURSELF!

I feel like in today’s society, especially as a young woman, there are so many standards we are pressured to meet. Whether that is how we should look, how we should act, what we should wear.

Society is out here telling us we need to look like models with a small waist, tan skin, big assets if you know what I mean.

Society is telling us that we shouldn’t show too much skin, we’re chastised if we do but at the same time don’t cover yourself up too much because then they’ll say you’re insecure or submissive.

Society is telling us to voice our opinions, but not too loudly. We’re told to love ourselves but if you do you’re labeled as being conceited….

So what should we do?

Honestly, we should say SCREW THAT, screw stereotypes, screw stigmas, screw labels. Screw anything that doesn’t speak love. Be you and unapologetically you, because YOU are WORTHY of LOVE.

YOU were created to be loved.

YOU were created not to envy others but to appreciate the beauty of all, including yourself.

So how can you do this?

  1. Eliminate Negative People From Your Life. You will have a hard time appreciating your beauty and uniqueness if there’s people whispering in your ear that you’re not that great. This can come in the form of a friend who just puts you down, whether that is in the form of actual insults, or just not supporting you in your goals and dreams. This can come in the form of people who comment negatively on your social media, I mean why just not block these people? They’re not even worth your time of day. Whatever it is, whoever it is, no one deserves to be in your life if they aren’t adding to it positively. It will be hard to grow and flourish and love yourself if you don’t surround yourself with people who encourage you to do so.
  2. Include Self Care Time. We all need time to unwind, to remove ourselves from the world and just be alone. I like to do this by taking a long shower, napping, going on a walk with my dog, painting my nails. Whatever it is, make sure you include time in your week to just let your mind be still and do something that you enjoy. This can greatly reduce your stress levels and give you time to do something that makes you feel good.
  3. Do Things That Inspire You. It’s important to feed your soul. To do things that make you feel excited and adventurous and truly happy to be alive. Do things that make you appreciate how beautiful life is and fill you with joy, because when you’re joyful it’s hard to be down on yourself. 
  4. Always Give Yourself Grace. I can’t emphasize this enough. We so often act as our own harshest critics. I know I constantly overthink things I say and do when other people probably don’t even think twice about it. It’s easy to tell ourselves that we aren’t worth it, that we aren’t good enough, when this isn’t true. Self love starts from within. If you want to love yourself, you have to give yourself grace. You’re human. We all make mistakes. Life can be really hard and screwed up and we can be part of it, but as I said before YOU ARE WORTHY OF LOVE. Even from yourself. Especially from yourself. 

Thank you for taking the time to read this post & I hope you enjoy my new niche. I’ll be posting every Monday, or at least trying to! Enter your email to be notified about new posts! 


Xoxox, 

Ruby Marie 

 

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I Can’t Write About Something I Don’t Love 

      Around Christmas time I attempted Blogmas, and before that I’ve attempted to blog consistently for a over a year now, but every time I just can’t seem to stick with it. It would honestly pain me to write posts about nails and candles (although I do love candles) and all this materialistic crap that I wasn’t even interested in myself. But I did it because it’s what I thought people would want to read, and I did it because it’s what all of the big, popular bloggers did. 

     They have aesthetic, they have catchy posts about fashion and makeup and stuff that I just wish I could get into, but when I tried to do this, I was just a sub par version of their content. I can’t write about something I don’t love, about things I’m not passionate about. That’s not why I started a blog. Truth be told, I actually started a blog several years ago anonymously at the advice of a counselor to get my jumbled, self hating, depressed thoughts out & that was when I fell in love with the blogging world. 

     But not the blogging world I tried to be a part of when I started itsrubymarie because itsrubymarie is NOT a fashion blog, not a lifestyle blog, in the sense of cute aesthetic posts about dinner parties and such as I’ve tried to make it. No…That’s not what I’m passionate about. 

     I’m passionate about photography, about expressing myself in an artistic way, about mental health advocacy, about being a voice for those things that people don’t want to hear about. I’m passionate about Jesus and about people…And that, that is what I want to write about. From now on, that is what itsrubymarie will be about. 

Disclaimer: I know many of my followers probably follow itsrubymarie because of what it has been in the past, but I ask you to take a chance at this new journey & open your eyes to what I have to say (…or write) as it is truly what is closest to my heart. Also, this is no hate towards fashion & lifestyle bloggers, that’s just not me but I think y’all are amazing & wish I could look that cute all the time! 😉 

Thank you for reading, expect new posts soon & of course tons of pictures still. 


Xoxox, 

Ruby Marie 

Shoot me an email at rubyymarie.contact@gmail.com 

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7 Winter Activity Ideas // Blogmas Day 20 

With Christmas only 5 days away (how did that happen?!?!) most of you are probably out of school and looking for some fun, festive activities! So, I have compiled a list of Holiday and winter activity ideas that are a lot of fun! A lot of these are around the Seattle area, but I’m sure there are similar events in most places!

  1. Go Iceskating, there are tons of places to go Iceskating and it is honestly just such an enjoyable Holiday activity. Actually, I would say it’s enjoyable all year round but especially during Christmas season.
  2. Snowflake Lane, this is in Bellevue and they have a little Holiday parade and fake snow. It is very fun and entertaining! The only negative I have about it would be that it is very crowded! So, if you don’t like being squished next to lots of people, this wouldn’t be for you!
  3. Zoo Lights, I have to admit, zoo lights has been one of my favorite Holiday things to do ever since I was a kid. It is just so fun! I recommend going to The Point Defiance Zoo and Aquarium if you live in the Seattle area. Their’s is the best!
  4. Play In The Snow, there are lots of places like Snoqualmie Pass where you can go tubing and sledding in the snow for very cheap. If you want to spend no money, my friends and I often just go up to the Pass or Mountains and enjoy the snow by ourselves! It is lots of fun, but make sure you have proper vehicle safety precautions so you don’t get stuck!
  5. GingerBread House Shows, we go to this event every year at the Sheradon in Seattle, where you just walk around and admire giant GingerBread houses. They are made by really skilled people and are amazingly intricate and beautiful! I highly suggest going! It will blow you away!
  6. Drive Around & Admire Lights, this is another one of my favorite things to do during the Holidays. I am always amazed by the people who go all out with lights on their house. Where to find good places is pretty subjective to where you live but it’s not hard to find festive houses. (And it’s a fun adventure to go looking for them!)
  7. Take Santa Pictures, this one is pretty basic but lots of people seem to not do it because of that. Growing up, we always made a day event out of going to take Santa Photos that included going out to eat & some Christmas shopping. It can be lots of fun with the right spirits.

What are your favorite Holiday Activities? I’m always looking for new, fun things to do! Comment & let me know!


Xoxo,

Ruby Marie

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How I’m Saving $20,000

Hey friends,

It’s been a while. And by a while I mean way too long. I don’t know why I can’t keep up with posting consistently. Honestly life just gets busy and blogging unfortunately becomes a low priority. You don’t know how many times I think, “wow I should blog that” and then end up getting busy, falling asleep, playing Pokemon Go, etc…😁

I’ve also been feeling a little lack of inspiration lately, so I really am going to try to blog more but I need input on what to blog about…(Comment your ideas on what I should write about…)

Anyway, I did get a comment a week or so ago asking to post about why I decided to stay here and go to Community College rather than a four year university. This is something I haven’t really liked talking about just because it seems to be all anyone has asked me about for the last few months. However, after struggling with the decision for quite a while I finally settled on what I was going to do and I feel pretty content with my decision. So here is my reasoning:

Okay, so I honestly think it’s a little crazy to expect everyone to go straight into a four year university, knowing their major and life plan right after high school. I mean, if you are one of those people who has that all figured out already good for you, but that’s definitely not the norm. And that’s definitely not me. Yet, it’s something that seems to be looked down upon, if you don’t have figured all out.

As I said earlier, I  really struggled with the decision to not go off to a four year university. I felt a little bit like a loser to be honest. In my mind people were going to think things like “wow, she’s dumb…not going anywhere in life,” and maybe they will. But I had to make the decision to not care.

After I took out my fear of what others would think, what I actually wanted to do become really clear. And that was; I didn’t know what I wanted to do. As in I didn’t know what I wanted to do with my future career, life path. So I thought, why would I spend a ridiculous amount of money to go off to a four year university when I don’t even know what I want to do?

For my senior oral boards I even calculated out the amount of money I would be saving by not going off to a four year university right away. It was right around 20,000 dollars. Which is crazy. I mean keep in mind that I did do running start for two years of high school and do have a significant head start on finishing my AA, but still. Crazy. 

So that’s my plan as of now, finish up my AA at Green River and then go off to maybe UW or Central, I’m not sure! If any of you have any experience at either of those schools comment your opinions!

Xoxo,

Ruby Marie

P.S. I know the comment also said to write about my boyfriend but I don’t know what to write about him lol, but just know he is perfect🙈